Do you remember how overwhelmed you felt preparing for the birth of child? You had many questions. What equipment will they need? Breast or bottle? Cloth or disposable? Then they started school and there were more questions. Public, private, or home school? As your child approaches college-age, those questions don’t cease; they just become a new set of questions.
I became a single mother at the start of my twin daughters’ senior year of high school and fully shouldered the daunting task of their college application and preparation process. It was truly a “baptism by fire.” I’m proud to report that they have successfully completed their sophomore year in college, and I will be starting the process all over again with my son, who will be a high school senior this fall.
The task may be daunting but it doesn’t have to totally overwhelm you. Thankfully, there is lots of information on the Internet. I could probably write a book on the subject, but my intent is to provide you with some of the basic information that I sought out as I was going through the process.
Community College, State College, or Private University?
The answer to this question will depend on many factors including your child’s high school academic successes, standardized test scores, choice of college major, future interests, your family’s household budget and the ability to contribute towards college costs, whether your child will live on or off campus, etc. Start flushing out these factors early in the high school years so you and your child will be fully prepared for the application process come junior and senior year.
- PSAT/NMSQT: Administered fall of the sophomore year of high school at some schools and fall of the junior year at all schools, the Preliminary SAT/National Merit Scholarship Qualifying Test provides firsthand practice for the SAT. It also gives students a chance to enter NMSC scholarship programs and gain access to college and career planning tools.
- SAT: Most students take this in the spring of their junior year, and many students take it again in the fall of their senior year.
- SAT II (AKA SAT Subject Tests): These can be taken every time the SAT is offered except for the March/April test. The SAT and the SAT Subject Tests cannot be taken in the same day.
- ACT: Usually taken during the spring of the junior year so students will have their test scores and other information in time to help them plan their senior year. The ACT follows the same schedule as the SAT except that students can pick and choose which scores they want to send to colleges.
Registering and paying for these standardized tests is easy and can be done online. Additionally, students have the opportunity to retest if they feel their initial scores didn’t accurately reflect their abilities in the areas they tested. Students can practice for the tests buy purchasing The Official SAT Study Guide and The Real ACT Prep Guide.
Once you’ve narrowed down your list of potential colleges to two or three, start scheduling visits. For my girls and me, spring break of their junior year was a great time for this. While we were not able to observe campus life with students actually “in” classes (because the colleges were also on spring break during that time), we were able to get a very clear picture of college life, academic programs, tour the dorms, etc. We actually visited four campuses and my girls quickly narrowed down their college choices to two. Check each college’s website for information about tours. They schedule group tours at various times during the year. Also get on their mailing list so you can be kept apprised of application deadlines, scholarship opportunities and deadlines, campus happenings, etc.
Be prepared. This can get expensive if you are applying to more than one school. Check the school’s website for fees associated with applying, deadlines, required documents, test scores, etc. Fortunately, many colleges and universities have gone completely digital in their application process making it a little less daunting. Colleges and universities use fairly standard definitions to describe each form of an application, which makes it easier for students to understand the differences between each university’s programs.
Many colleges and universities participate in The Common Application, a not-for-profit membership organization that serves students, member institutions, and secondary schools by providing applications that students and school officials may submit to any of their over 500 members. When using the Common Application, you can create one application (per child) and submit it to multiple colleges (provided the college or university is a participating member), and even pay the application fees right online.
If your child is interested in attending a military academy, that process needs to be started early in the junior year of high school. Be prepared, it is a tedious process. Both my girls applied to and were accepted at the Air Force Academy. One received a congressional recommendation—the other did not. While they both decided to attend their state university, I was glad they went through the Air Force Academy application process. It was a learning experience and the interview conducted by community leaders gave them a taste of the “real world” of being an adult.
Your college applicant will be required to submit an admission essay with their application. This is how the college or scholarship provider gets to know them. They should make this essay personal and free from grammatical errors. Check out the 10 Tips for Writing the College Application Essay on U.S. News.com. Also check out the personal essay tips on Collegeapps.about.com.
Once you have narrowed down your school(s) of choice, it’s time to start looking into college financing. There are so many options including scholarships, grants, student loans, parent loans, work study, etc. The best place to start this educational process is at the respective colleges’ websites. They provide links for scholarship and grant opportunities, state-sponsored opportunities, and the Free Application for Federal Student Aid (FAFSA), where you can apply for federal grants, loans, and work-study funds.
The FAFSA is now also an online application and you will be required to complete a FAFSA for each child; but they offer a great feature that allows you to copy all the information you submit over to additional child in the family.
You will need to discuss housing options with your child and their school. My girls’ university required that freshman live in the dorms. My twins decided to have roommates randomly assigned to them so they could meet new people and fully experience college life. Check out the colleges’ websites regarding housing requirements, costs, the application process, roommate selections, etc. Many colleges will allow students to apply to be Resident Assistants (RAs) in their sophomore year. This is a great opportunity for your child to cut housing costs while also taking on some leadership responsibilities.
My girls had a very successful and fun dorm experience their freshman year, including making lots of new friends, getting involved in group functions, etc.
Living in the Dorms
What will they need? What can they live without? Start a list and start it now! My girls brought way too much stuff to the dorm their freshman year and I ended up bringing a lot of it back home.
Here are some links to just a few of the many college packing lists you can find online. Check them out and then create a personalized packing list for your child.
Be prepared for the expense. It cost me $300 per child to get my girls set up with linens, toiletries, cosmetics, non-perishable food and drinks, eating utensils, electronics, cleaning supplies, etc. for their dorm rooms.
You’ll want to consider the following additional expenses when making college choices:
- Meal plans (most colleges offer several different plans with varying costs)
- Parking (my twins opted not to take their car to college freshman year because they were on campus all the time and the parking fees were too high. Instead, they brought their bikes. There even ended up being a $25 “bike registration fee” that we had not planned for).
- Health insurance. If your child will not continue to be covered under your family plan, you’ll want to see if the college offers student insurance.
- Books and supplies
- Check out Slugbooks.com to buy, rent and sell textbooks.
- Campus Book Rentals offers new and gently used textbooks for typically less than half the price paid in school bookstores. They also offer RentBack, an initiative that allows students to rent the textbooks they own—to other students-and earn money.
- Travel expenses to come home on breaks and over the summer. Most colleges don’t allow students to remain in the dorms over the summer months so your child will have to move their belongings out of the dorms and either into storage or back into your home.
By the time your children are college-aged they’ll have completed many monumental tasks and you’ll have survived a variety of seemingly insurmountable challenges. Preparing your child for college is just one of an assortment of important roles you’ll play in their lives over the years. You’ll perform those roles best if you are well informed so continue gathering information and asking questions, and hopefully your child will give you a break for a few years before they start asking you for advice on parenting their own child! Best of luck to each of you!
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Donna May Lyons is a single mother of 21-year-old fraternal twin daughters who recently completed their sophomore year at Colorado State University, and a 17-year-old son who will be a senior in high school in the fall. She is a freelance writer, editor, graphic designer, and social media manager residing in Colorado Springs.